Beyond the FALSE SCAPEGOAT NARRATIVE: With Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT- Adult Child Podcast
Diana Delaney
[Part 3 of 4]: Scroll down to view chapters - In DYSFUNCTIONAL or NARCISSISTIC family systems that SCAPEGOAT, a negative, painful, "shaming and blaming" FALSE NARRATIVE is attached to a particular child - This child is often the family EMPATH or 'Truth-Teller'. Recovering from family scapegoating abuse (FSA) therefore includes dis-identifying from the damaging 'scapegoat narrative' - a CRITICAL cognitive step in the scapegoated Adult Child's healing. Tune in as Andrea Ashley of the Adult Child Podcast and Rebecca C. Mandeville, psychotherapist and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', continue to explore how scapegoating can occur in dysfunctional, traumatized families. PART 4 will be released on 12/16. Access Parts 1 and 2 of the Podcast here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list.... TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast discusses psycho-emotional abuse and could be activating to adult survivors Learn more about Structural Dissociation: https://www.scapegoatrecovery.com/202...
0:00 - Intro 0:22 - Discussing family patterns of scapegoating with your child. 1:50 - Recognizable symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA). 3:30 - Rebecca shares FSA assessment process. 3:46 - Narcissistic abuse versus FSA. 4:14 - From Denial to Acceptance - FSA healing and recovery path. 6:15 - Dis-identifying from the false scapegoat narrative. 7:35 - The challenges of Narcissistic family abuse recovery. 8:05 - Structural Dissociation and family abuse. 9:25 - FSA, Toxic Shame, and Complex Trauma. 9:40 - How Cognitive shifts help in FSA recovery. 11:00 - The importance of psycho-education in FSA recovery. 12:10 - The traumatized parent versus the narcissistic parent and FSA. 13:00 - FSA and the heavy weight of intergenerational trauma. ✅ You can purchase my best-selling book on family scapegoating abuse (FSA), 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3sEaqcx. Or buy from your favorite online shop via this secure Universal Buy Link (UBL): https://books2read.com/intro2fsa. ✅ Check out more of my videos on FSA: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...
[Part 4 of 4]: Scroll down to view chapters - SCAPEGOATED BY FAMILY? Join Psychotherapist, researcher, and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', Rebecca C. Mandeville, as she shares her clinical observations and the experiences of her scapegoated clients and FSA research participants on what she named 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA) in part four of this four-part interview with Andrea Ashley of 'Adult Child Podcast'.
0:00 - Intro 0:25 - Working with families with intergenerational trauma. 1:15 - The family Identified Patient (as IP) as holder of systemic grief. 2:34 - FSA and alcoholic family systems. 3:30 - When truth can be dangerous. 4:00 - Limiting family contact and FSA recovery. 5:05 - Why cultural competence matters in FSA treatment. 5:40 - Why scapegoating can worsen as an adult survivor gets healthier. 6:50 - Doing a new healthier 'dance' in a dysfunctional family (analogy). 7:23 - Setting a 'no contact' boundary with abusive family members. 9:00 - Rebecca's goal with her work on FSA. 10:20 - How FSA can affect romantic relationships. 12:14 - "We go to what we know".